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May. 28th, 2014 03:12 pm 1566th

I keep getting notices about my 401k from the former job telling me that I need to roll it over into another, or put it in an ira, or other things, or they're just going to cut me a check. In the past I would have been all worried and researching my best options, etc, but since it's 99% certain I will not need retirement I guess I'm not going to do anything and they can just send me the money. I think it's under 1000 anyhow. Its not like the poverty wages allowed me to contribute much to it. May as well use it to settle affairs.

May. 26th, 2014 12:04 am 1565th

Uh oh. A mutual friend just unfriended her because apparently she's talking about money now. I blocked the convo before that I guess, but I can make a guess what she did and DIDN'T mention. Like the 10,000 I gave her for a car, the 6,000 for her sick cat, etc, etc. Not to mention she hasn't put a dime into this house for 5+ years. Oh, well. It's always me, not her. I just forget that from time to time. :D

May. 25th, 2014 11:35 pm 1564th

Oh lololol. Someone is having a meltdown. Based on the sheer volume of PMs from people saying, essentially, "are you kidding me? after all you do to help out?" it's not going over so well with our friends lololol. Oh well. I took the high road and ended it, and just told em all it's a private matter. It's up to her if she wants to continue to look like a petty bitch in front of everyone. *shrug*

May. 23rd, 2014 10:49 pm 1563rd

Whoa. She actually reacted to his assholery instead of just ignoring it and therefore tacitly giving him permission to continue. I'm flabbergasted.



Not that it will change a damn thing.

May. 22nd, 2014 10:14 am 1562nd

Yep. Despise every last one of them.

May. 19th, 2014 09:47 pm 1561st

How anyone can stay married to that ... thing. Bleh.

May. 19th, 2014 09:40 pm 1560th

Dear god she married a complete buffoon. Even his voice, never mind the words, makes me roll my eyes. Uncultured, uncouth, and no interest in ever becoming better. The sooner they get the fuck out of here the sooner I can go, too.

May. 12th, 2014 05:56 pm 1559th

What a coincidence. He spent the entire day in YOUR company and comes home completely unbearable to be around.

May. 11th, 2014 07:22 pm 1558th

Nothing like living up to (or down to) expectations. She spent the whole day gazing coldly and dramatically into the distance, and even as we speak she's sitting in the car (dramatically) while the rest of us enjoy our Mother's Day dinner. Nothing like showing appreciation for his efforts to make the day special for you. The resemblance is absolutely eerie.

May. 10th, 2014 11:35 pm 1557th

It's a good day to reflect on how she has become our Mother. I wish I could say that was a good thing. :/
The same cold fish, emotional manipulation when he does something she doesn't like (she thinks she's just being stern I guess ... ? and looking back, so did our Mom, probably? but we both know what it's like to be on the receiving end, and it's pretty damaging) I want to laugh derisively at her, and cry bitterly for him every time she does it.
The same use of physical infirmities (real or imagined, or just simply ... um ... enhanced?) to influence behavior, even in public settings. Nothing like making a 4 year old feel guilty for hurting Mama.
The same same same same physical body. Every time I see her sit herself on the end of the couch with that "wince" and the spread knees to "accommodate" her physical ailments, I flash back to those last years of Mom's. The same sickly sagging jowls, unhealthy skin tone, and ugly look on her mouth. I expect to look up and see a wild tangle of gray unkempt hair. When her doctor told her she didn't look good I knew EXACTLY what he meant. She looks like Mom before Mom died. According to her she's DOING. THE. BEST. SHE. CAN. but we all know that for the lie it is. I keep wanting to challenge her to tell me ONE thing she's doing to make herself "better," but I know she can't come up with one, or not a realistic one, while those around her could cite chapter and verse of what she's doing that's harming her health, so ...
And that same sense of selfish bitterness and resentment at the time involved in being a parent. Beyond the normal frustrations and inconveniences. He's already begun to notice it, just as we did ... Yeah, parenthood, especially in her case, was a CHOICE. As was the other half of the parenthood equation. The fact that she resents it now reflects on no one but her, and is, again, tragically funny.
Anyhoo, if there's anything destined to make me make an effort to take care of myself, and try desperately to be conscious of my interactions with the little one and how he views them ... I'm trying to consciously differentiate myself, but man, biological destiny is a bitch. I feel myself sliding into the same behaviors in reaction to her that I had as teen at home reacting to Mom. So the struggle continues.

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